Thursday, November 5, 2015

Today hubby is being transfered to a psychiatric hospital about an hour away from here. They feel they can help him get rid of the hostility and anger. At first I was resistant but I do see the value in the treatment for him and if it can help it will be worth it. They did get him to the dining room Tues. night. I hate that he is just getting used to that place and they are going to move him to a new facility with different people. It's been nine days since I've seen him. I know he wonders where I am and leaving him alone is the hardest thing I've ever done. We will be able to go see him after he has been in the new hospital for a week. I'm anxious to see how he is and what he says.

I feel like my life is on hold until we get results and see what happens. I can't seem to get organized to do anything and truthfully I'm not doing anything. This week has been in the mid 70's and just lovely. I cleaned a little bit in the garage. That was always hubby's job and there are things out there that I don't even know what they are. They boys will go through that stuff.

I did send out some cards earlier in October and I have to apologize if your card came postage due. I bought a roll of stamps online from the PO that said they were forever stamps. There is no denomination on the stamp so I assumed (and you know what happens when you assume) they were just regular stamps. Only one card was returned to me from the PO with this little note below. Turns out they are not 45 cent stamps. Oops. Be kind to one another.


  1. Hello Brenda,
    I have read your previous posts so I'm all caught up now.
    Even though I cannot imagine what you must be going through, please know that I am thinking of you ...

  2. I'm so glad that the authorities are recognising that your hubby needs extra help and that is is available. I can imagine how hard it is for you not to be able to seen him but it is all part of the process he needs to go through. You are doing the right thing for hubby. Thinking of you daily. virtual hugs Mrs A.

  3. You know my heart is with you, Brenda. Hoping today is better for you. Don't worry about not accomplishing anything--you have a big transition, too, & some chill out time can be helpful! Give Molly a pat on the head from me! Big hugs, Greta

  4. I hope and pray that this move will bring peace to both your husband and to you. You are doing all you can. Enjoy that nice weather and take some deep breaths. Thoughts and prayers continue to go with you. <3

  5. Thank you for the update, Brenda. Even though we knew this was a possibility, it is hard to have it actually be happening and so hard not to be able to see him. We just have to trust that these are professionals who do this sort of thing for a living because it is their calling and they will only do what is best for Bill. I can't even imagine how paralyzed you feel with all of this so up in the air. All I know is, I would be doing nothing also, waiting for the dust to settle, worrying about him, and worrying about the future. I pray for strength for you, for patience, for peace and acceptance, and for the ability to trust that he is in good hands. Take care of yourself, my friend. Don't forget those little things - oh, you know, like eating and breathing!

    As far as the stamps, those forever stamps are nice, but they do mess you up not having any amount on them, don't they? My little penguin stamps like that say in VERY teeny tiny font: extra ounce. Ask me how I discovered that?! LOL! I'm sending you lots of love and hugs!! Darnell

  6. Oh Brenda, God love you! I think you are doing great, thank you for sharing your life with us, that must help a bit! I agree with everything everyone else has written to you, so just know that I am keeping you close in thoughts and prayers!

  7. Even though this is a particularly hard stretch for both of you just now, hopefully this new place will be able to do something productive for Mr. I can totally understand you just feel loss, and can't settle to anything. To be expected I think! So just go with what feels like you can do, and if it's nothing, but talk to Molly, then that's fine! I had to grin about the postage. Been there, done that! It's why I take most of my cards to the PO, and sometimes it's STILL happened, even after the postal folks weigh the envelope! Take good care of you, because Mr. is where someone else has that duty at the moment. Sending prayers & lots of hugs. TFS

  8. I'm caught up now - and totally agree with everyone who has said it's a tough time for you right now. Possibly the hardest as you don't know which way things will go. A lot is in the hands of folk who are trained to handle these situations and I pray they will find a resolution - if hubby's anger can be managed I'm sure that will be a really big step. Thanking of you loads Brenda!

    Love and hugs

    Di xx