Friday, October 10, 2014

This first part is a medical thing, so you can skip over it. Whew, we have a new wrinkle. Wednesday afternoon hubby said his chest hurts. He said "I won't wait like I did the last time if this gets worse". Last time he had a heart attack on his way to work while driving. About 4 he said it was getting bad so  we jumped in the car and went to ER. His tests didn't show that it was his heart but the nitroglycerin made the pain go away. Much against his will they admitted him. If he was going to have a heart attack, he missed a good chance while he was ranting and raving about staying there overnight! They decided not to do a heart cath because he just didn't understand what they were talking about and the Dr. thought it would make him worse and more confused. It was while I was waiting for him to be released that I was bombarded with information. A social worker started asking a lot of questions and a physical therapy gal came in too. They want to make a home health care visit to teach him to walk with a walker and inspect the house to see if they can make it better for him. I don't mind that and think it may help us. When I called our sons they said they have been talking and think we should consider looking at facilities where you start out together then can move to assisted living and skilled care. I started crying in the waiting room where we were talking. They and the nursing staff and doctor see more than I do. If something happens I don't see it as a problem, I just adjust and fix it. They see it as a problem we are going through and needs to be taken care of. I was just tired and overwhelmed and the sympathy and offer of help got to me. I know my sister in law told me a while back I should start looking at nursing homes so I would be prepared when the time comes. So these last few days have been an eye opener by just seeing things through other peoples eyes. Our younger son told me last night he expects to get a call every day that dad has fallen and I need help. After I get through this eye thing I will start my search. It is heartbreaking. On a lighter note, I can't go anywhere where I won't have a craft room!

Here is my first Halloween card. It is a fun stamp set from Lawn Fawn with a googly eye added and paper from a 6x6 pack from Doodlebug along with a strip of washi tape. It just cracks me up. 

Don't forget I have a giveaway ending Sunday at noon. Be kind to one another.


8 comments:

  1. So sorry you are going through a difficult time at the moment. You sound like you have a supportive family, who I'm sure will help you make the right decision for you and your hubby. Thinking of you all. x

    I love your fun card. Great sentiment. x

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  2. Great card. The paper reminds me of those test pages they give you where your supposed to see a hidden shape.!! Hugs Mrs A.
    P.. Have sent you a private email.

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  3. Oh that is a scary next step in life that you have to take. Will be praying for you. Don't blame you for wanting a room for your crafts where ever you go. Least you have family that are watching your back.
    Louise

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    1. forgot to say.....really cute card!!!
      Louise

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  4. Brenda, You have such a wonderful family who loves and supports you, just know they have your best interests in their hearts and minds. They want you and your dear husband to be safe at all times. I am sure everything will work out and you will be happy (just be sure you have a space for your crafts!!) what a cute little "monster" card!

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  5. Brenda, I'm so thankful you have a caring & supportive family close by you. Will write more in an email. Just here, I will say what a delightfully cute Halloween card. You're inspiring me to get busy and get some boo-boo cards made. This one is just cute, cute, cute. Big hugs & prayers too. TFS

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  6. Your card is just adorable, Brenda! You know, I'm one of those nurses who talks with families about things like this. Just remember, it's your life & your hubby's and those of us on the outside can give you information & sometimes help you see something you've missed, but you have to do what's right for you & your family. Sometimes what the professionals think is not right for you. Hugs, Greta

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  7. Oh Brenda, reading this just breaks my heart! I hate that you are going through all this with hubby. I know it has to be so difficult for you and so overwhelming. I know it would be for me. I think you need to go with your gut instinct. Don't just settle because it is what everyone wants you to do. I love Greta advice to you, sometimes you just have to do what is right for you and your family. So weigh your pro's and con's and discuss it with your son's. Some people do great with assisted living, some do great in nursing homes...but there are some who do not. When they are made to leave their home, they give up. So you know hubby better than the professionals, so you do what you thing is right my friend. Now about this Halloween card....it is adorable!! Love the paper you used and I'm not sure if that is ribbon or not, but it is so cute! Love the image too, he is so fun with his googly eye. Hugs, Brenda

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